Is What I'm Feeling Infatuation or Love?

Infatuation is usually regarded as first phase of Love. The phase of Infatuation is very exciting, and it is initially very tough to diffrentiate between Love and Infatuation but as time passes and with experience everyone becomes mature enough to make out a difference between infatuation and love. But it has been seen that certain type of people love this phase of infatuation and are just not ready to settle down with someone serious.

There are certain kind of feelings we feel when infatuated those feelings we usually don’t feel when we’re in love. Some of the symptoms of infatuation are panic, uncertainty, lust, excitement, and impatience.

When infatuated, we are thrilled, but we still have doubts, wanting to trust, yet suspicious. But we are happy because there is a rise in our social status among friends and family that is if other person is also infatuated by us.There are lingering, nagging doubts about our “partner in infatuation” and their love for us. We’re miserable when they’re away, almost like we’re not complete unless we’re with them. It’s a rush and it’s intense. It’s difficult to concentrate. And most infatuation relationships have a high degree of sexual charge around them. Somehow being with them is not complete unless in ends in some type of sexual encounter.

Do any of these symptoms resemble feelings of love? Hardly, so why do we become infatuated? Where does it come from? Perhaps it’s biological.

When infatuated we experience a surge of dopamine that rushes through the brain causing us to feel good. Norepinephrine flows through the brain stimulating production of adrenaline (pounding heart). Phenylethalimine (found in chocolate) creates a feeling of bliss. Irrational romantic sentiments may be caused by oxytocin, a primary sexual arousal hormone that signals orgasm and feelings of emotional attachment. Together these chemicals sometimes override the brain activity that governs logic.

The body can build up tolerances to these chemicals so it takes more of the relationships to get that special feeling of infatuation. People who jump from relationship to relationship may be craving the intoxicating effects of  these substances and may be “infatuation junkies”.

When the chemical flood dries up, the relationship either moves into a loving romantic one or there is disillusionment, and the relationship ends.

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