Problems in Love Relationships

Personal unhappiness that is there within us is the greatest contributor to relationship problems.

You don't love me like I love you.

Problems can creep in when we start thinking like “do I love him more than he loves me?” We start examining all the things we do for our lover. The way we express our love and how much time and energy we’re putting into the relationship. Then we try to figure out if our lover is giving an equal amount back. If we come to know that we are the givers in that balance sheet, we start to back away from the relationship or we fight with our partner showing our anguishness. We don't want to love more than they love. We become fearful that if we love them more than they love us, we might be played for a fool.

Some questions.
Try asking yourself following set of questions and write down the answers in yes or no. You will see where you stand.

Focus on how you feel when you love. Does loving someone feel good regardless if it’s returned or not? Is your loving someone conditional? Do you want same anount of love in return? If so why? Do you feel loved when your partner isn’t around? If not, why not? Do you accept yourself, appreciate your qualities? Are you doing things for your lover that you really don't want to do, but feel you need to, to keep their love? Are you doing things for them, expecting something in return? What are you expecting? And have you told them what that is?

We don't have anything in common anymore.
You love each other and that's why you got together in the first place, but you don't really seem to have much in common anymore. You’re into philosophy and art. They're into sports. You like books and going for walks, and she always wants to go sailing. But you tell yourself that marriage is a sacrifice. A give and take. You’ve been told you should put aside your own interests to make the relationship work. You have to compromise, right? But when you give up what you love for the sake of the relationship, you end up resenting the person and conclude you don't have anything in common.

If you had these differences when you fell in love, chances are it's not about having nothing in common, but not having the connection and intimacy you once had.

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