Problems in Love Relationships

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Some Questions

Is honesty in your love relationship ever a “wrong” move?
Why do you believe that?
Get clear on what you've lied about to your partner. What would happen if you shared what you learned? What is the worst that would happen? Are you capable of handling that? Why or why not?
Figure out what you're afraid would happen if you were honest with them about those issues. Talk to your partner about your concerns of being TOTALLY honest. Keep the focus on YOUR feelings and not their behavior.
Muster up the courage to tell them what you've lied about. Repeat to yourself, "No matter what happens, I will be okay."

If you loved me you would.
Unspoken and unacknowledged expectations take a large toll in relationships. In having expectations, you're expecting your partner to be a certain way in order to believe they love and care about you. If you don't get what you expect, you conclude all kinds of negative things about the relationship that may not be true.

Useful Questions

Do your expectations have to be fulfilled for you to be happy? If so, why?
Do you expect your partner to conform to your wants? What does it mean when they don't?
Do you have preset rules in your love relationships? If so, what are they and why?
Do you find yourself often saying “he should” or “she should”?
Do you have any “If you loved me you would...[fill in the blank]'s”? If so, what are they?
Can you think of a time you didn't do what someone wanted you to do? Did you love them, even though you didn't do what they wanted? Could it be the same with your partner?
Do you use another’s words and actions as “evidence or proof” that they love you? If your partner does that thing or activity you want, then do they love you? If they don't, is that a sign they don't love you or care? If yes why?
Understand everyone has different wants, desires, and beliefs about what it means to be loving and loved.

Be Honest

Problems genrally leads to Fight